So you want to get six pack abs? Good. That’s a realistic goal for most people.
But that’s really not the question you should be asking yourself. Instead, you should determine whether you’re willing to accept the daily disciplines that lead to six pack abs.
Some of the least successful people I know are the ones who “want” the most things in life. These people want to be surrounded by Lamborghinis, mansions, and beautiful women.
They want to be in great shape and have toned abs all year round.Yet year after year, these people never seem to even progress, much less achieve their goals.
Why? It’s actually more simple than you might think.
A “want” is merely a preference and nothing more. The reality is that most people want the finer things in life. The problem is that these same people want absolutely nothing to do with the process that’s required to get there.
There’s nothing wrong with having a desire. But if you don’t supplement your “wants” with a concrete plan of action, then you’ll never come close to achieving your goals.
The Power Of Goal Setting
Goal setting is the common denominator between the rich and the poor. It is a skill that can be acquired by anyone and applied to virtually any arena of life.
A study conducted at the Harvard Business School concluded that less than 3% of their MBA students wrote down their goals. When they followed up with the members of their graduating class, only 3% of them were financially independent.
Coincidence? I think not.
Unfortunately, goal setting is not prevalent in our standard education system.
Neither are millionaires…
I’ve yet to find a millionaire that doesn’t have a written set of goals. I’ve also yet to meet a college professor that is a millionaire.
This is one of the many reasons that college is one of the biggest scams in America.
When you examine the cost of education versus the median salary in America, it’s nothing less than a white collar crime.
I’m not saying that everyone should strive to be wealthy. If you’re happy with your day to day life, then I’m happy for you.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with being a C player.
But there’s also nothing wrong with having bold, massive goals. There’s nothing wrong with living a life of autonomy on your terms.
If you want to achieve the finer things in life, then you need to be willing to do things that others aren’t.
Setting goals isn’t just “part” of success. Settings goals is a prerequisite for success.
How To Set Your Fitness Goals
The process of setting goals can be applied to any endeavor of life, and fitness is no exception. If you’re looking to transform your body, then there is a proven process that you can model. There’s no need to reinvent the wheel and spend years trying to figure it out for yourself.
Modeling is one of the most misconstrued concepts in society. Successful people are willing to relinquish their ego to learn from others. Instead of making arbitrary guesses, they model those who have already achieved their desired results.
But before you decide who you want to model, you need to establish a clear vision.
This is without a doubt the most important part of setting goals. When you understand exactly where you want to go, you’ll ultimately find a way to get there.
The “Reactive” Lifestyle
The truth is that most people live a dogmatic life with no purpose. They have absolutely no idea why they do what they do each day.
When you go through life in reactive mode, you tend to lose sight of the things that actually matter. Before you know it, your day is completely controlled by someone else.
By the time you get to work, you have a long “to-do list” from your boss. The long days of doing soul crushing work leave you exhausted when 6pm rolls around. You have no energy to exercise, and can’t stop hitting the snooze button each and every morning.
If so, don’t worry about it. Just a couple of years ago, I was one of these people. It’s easy to fall into the traps of society when you’ve always been told that you’re doing “everything right.”
But if you’re reading this, then you’ve demonstrated that you’re one of the few people that actually wants more out of life. Deep down inside, you know that you’re capable of much more.
But something is preventing you from taking that initial step. Maybe it’s the fear of the unknown. Or perhaps you fear what your friends and family will think of your dreams and aspirations.
I’m here to tell you to listen to that voice.
There’s nothing enlightening about taking orders from someone each day. Living a reactive lifestyle is designed to keep you confined and obedient.
Now, am I suggesting that you go out and break all of the rules?
Yes, that’s exactly what I’m saying.
Start Living Proactively
Reactive people wait for others to tell them what to do. Proactive people live everyday of their life with an underlying purpose.
If you want to get a body that makes peoples heads turn, then you need to train with a purpose each day.
This will require you to spend more time at the gym than your “average Joe” buddies.
Contrary to popular belief, you won’t have to sacrifice every aspect of your social life to get in shape. But if you’re going to the bar for “Thirsty Thursdays” and “Sunday Funday” each week, you’ll need to make some changes.
Whenever you start to pursue excellence, others will try and sabotage your efforts.
Most people are only comfortable with the current version of you. If everyone else is content with mediocrity, it becomes easy to justify that lifestyle. When you raise your standards, it forces others around you to take an honest inventory of themselves.
The harsh truth is that the majority of people just “go through the motions” of life.
Next time you go to your local gym, take a quick glance around at the people next to you. How many of them look the exact same year after year?
If you don’t possess a clear vision towards your fitness goals, you will inevitably fall into this category.
You can only train without getting results for so long. Eventually, you’ll end up quitting and resorting to a bunch of weak excuses like, “I don’t have time” or “I wasn’t born with good genetics.”
Simply relying on your motivation isn’t enough to take massive action over the long-term. When you have a clear vision of what you want to become, it will pull you out of bed on those dark rainy mornings.
Step #1: Creating Your Vision
What is the actual reason that you want to transform your body?
I’m willing to bet the deep, underlying reason that you want to get in shape is different from what you tell people.
This is first and most important step of the goal setting process.
If you’re looking to impress your ex-girlfriend on the beach this summer, then I’m going to implore you to stop right here.
Trying to get in shape for the vanity is like wanting to get rich for the money and fame.
Everyone seems to “want” it, but few people actually seem to do it.
Of course there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good. But if that’s the sole reason you’re trying to transform, then you’re never going to have enough gas to make it to the finish line of this journey.
Successful people are the ones who become addicted to the process. They have a vision that pulls them through the temporary obstacles that stand in their way.
I’m telling you to stop making decisions based on the hollow opinions of others. Most people never dare to pursue their dreams because a family member once told them not to.
Look in the mirror and honestly ask yourself, “Why do I want to transform my body?”
Maybe you want to become a source of inspiration for others. Or maybe you’re disgusted with the way that you look and feel each day.
If you’re disgusted with yourself, that’s a great place to start.
My Personal Vision
I became disgusted with the way that I looked and felt each day. At the time, I was a miserable accountant that definitely looked the part. I was somehow indoctrinated to believe that looking like a slob was something to be proud of.
Before I started my workout and nutrition regimen, I had a clear vision of what I wanted to look like. I didn’t want to be a bodybuilder, and certainly didn’t want to look like a frail marathon runner.
I wanted to have lean muscle and a low body fat. I wanted to have unstoppable energy levels and a body that worked at its maximum efficiency.
But most importantly, I came to terms with exactly why I wanted to achieve this goal.
I used fitness as a vehicle to get my life back together. I was sick and tired of living my life based on someone else’s perception of success. I had absolutely no desire to be part of the status quo and was reminded everyday by the robot accountants that surrounded me.
I knew that if I started working on my body, it would eventually help me transform my career and personal life.
And that’s exactly what happened. Reaching my fitness goals gave me the confidence to pursue my business endeavors. I left that dead end public accounting job to start my own business.
My friends and family thought I was crazy to leave such a safe job that provided health benefits and a 401k.
My girlfriend at the time had her mother set her up on dates behind my back. Apparently, I wasn’t fitting the mold of success that they were looking for in a man.
None of this phased me one bit. I had a clearly defined vision of the person I wanted to become.
For the next few years, I began vehemently working on the goals that mattered to me. I realized that if you want to become a lion, you can’t surround yourself with sheep.
I stopped playing in the local townie basketball leagues.
I sold my treadmill and decided to pursue an activity that actually challenged me both physically and mentally. I began training Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, which ended up being an absolute game changer for me.
Fitness helped change my philosophy on life. It gave me the confidence to believe in the process of hard work, rather than constantly looking for shortcuts.
Now don’t get me wrong, I didn’t get upset when gorgeous women complimented me on my new physique. But the intangible benefits of getting in shape are far more rewarding than the vanity.
I was able to apply these core concepts into my business, personal life, and marital arts. Now, I wake up everyday excited to get out of bed.
I don’t have to answer to anyone, much less some disgruntled accountant that can barely hold a conversation with another human being.
I transformed my body and life because I had a deeper, meaningful vision that I was moving towards. Building a strong body was just the first step…
That is what you need to possess my friend. Come to terms with the true reason that you want to change. If you’re doing it to increase your social life, then don’t even bother starting in the first place.
When you have a deep enough “why”, the “how” will inevitably start falling into place.
In part 2 of this Transformation Blueprint series, I’m going to show you how to write goals that will hold you accountable over the long-term.
Until then, decide what you want and why you want it.